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erniet's avatar

Another approach is to take the insult and make it yours…even turn it in to a strength. I am very short, always have been, and was perceived as an easy target by bullies…usually insults (shorty, midget, half-pint), sometimes physical. So I owned my size, was proud of it…and they stopped when they realized it didn’t bother me.

The physical was a different matter…😂

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Novaheart's avatar

That is a good approach as well. I am rather sensitive to physical criticism but I learned to build up a shield against those who are irrelevant in my life. However if someone close to me says something mean I'll crack into tears.

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erniet's avatar

Yeah, most people think I don’t care what other people think…my wife knows better!😂

Verbal bullying is just a form of emotional manipulation. The two most effective techniques against emotional manipulation are colloquially known as “the broken record” (used when someone is trying to deflect, distract, or change the subject often by bringing up hurtful things) and “fogging” (owning an insult or accusation).

I use both all the time. There’s nothing better than to watch some bully’s reaction when they come at you with “I heard you said such-and-such about me” and you calmly say, “I did.” They literally have nothing to say at that point…😂

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Oli Trollgora's avatar

Thank you. I enjoyed it. If you really didn't, do kittens or puppies instead. 😊

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Novaheart's avatar

Haha I am a cat lady so I may do cat themed things in the future lol

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The Black Knight's avatar

The best thing to feed a bully is a knuckle sammich.

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Novaheart's avatar

no no no no

no violence.

The rule is if someone throws the first punch then you can kick their ass.

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The Black Knight's avatar

They always start first.

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The Black Knight's avatar

This is like army talk lol

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